Oldest Child

 
Ever wonder what it would be like if I was the youngest one? Lol I can't even imagine. Being the Oldest child comes with many responsibilities along with one permanent "perk"- you become a punching bag, it doesn't matter what the issue was. We are always looked upon for being the strict ones. Hey, do we like it? No, it's built into the role, duh. I wanted to be free like a bird sometimes and get away with stupid stuff as my younger siblings did, but no, that wasn't in the stars for me...Hahaha. Well, being the first one, I agree we get everything new: new toys, new clothes, a decorated room - but we didn't ask for any of that. That was all for our parents, who wanted to scream to the entire world that they had become one of the best parents. Well enough of a roast, we do get the best of everything. But trust me, we pay the price every step of the way. If the younger one does something good, it'll be the biggest achievement of the house; however, if they do something wrong, that's our fault - we should've kept a closer eye. 

If we do anything well, that becomes our job. On the other hand, we mess up or don't show up or make terrible decisions, and you can hear your siblings screaming their eyes out from a mile away; you are older. Why didn't you say something? How would we know we are younger? Hello, you realized that, right? That's the proof you knew you just wanted to throw me under the bus. 

As we grow older, responsibilities also increase. But with that being said, I mean we have ONLY two shoulders to carry all this. We have to make sure all our siblings are okay and make sure they are not doing anything wishy-washy. You get my point.

Sometimes I lash out that I have had enough, and then my best friend, My better half, will talk some sense into me that all your family look upto you and you have to act the part. So now I try not to get mad and keep everyone united.  

That thought came to mind: what if I was not the older one, but you know, being the most senior made me wise, calm and collected? I am completing my decision very carefully. All everyone needs is someone who can decide for them. Being the oldest one of my four sisters not only made me a strong woman, but I also earned respect. Though might talk behind my back or make fun of me, I am on their speed dial in their times of need. That's the feeling worth having.

It only takes one little spark to break away everything, but it takes a lot to keep everyone together and united.

 In conclusion, I feel your pain if you are an older child. I have total sympathy but trust me, God made you older for a reason. You have it in you to carry the responsibility to keep everyone sane and together. Make sure you have a support system, such as a spouse, or best friend, where you can vent out your frustration. Don't bottle up inside; it will blow unexpectedly, and you might regret it. I have a support system where I vent and feel much lighter. 

One last thing being an older child does not mean that you abuse your power; don't be a dictator, be a leader, and always lead by example. Your family looks up to.

Ciao for now. 

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